tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5712681194824092608.post7407562295959524657..comments2021-04-08T04:13:33.308-04:00Comments on The Elizabeth W: A random thought about dating in the churchThe Elizabeth Whttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02942107063189517156noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5712681194824092608.post-22301656345895034742010-10-18T18:49:14.039-04:002010-10-18T18:49:14.039-04:00Flirting on a sunday morning or other church servi...Flirting on a sunday morning or other church service might not be a good idea because that's not why you're there. But say you meet a nice single guy on a sunday morning who shows interest and let's say you meet out for coffee later, it would be ok to flirt a long as you know where to set the limit. It's about context. Not flirting at all is not good, guys like girls who flirt, but again, in the right context with good taste, if you over do it it's also bad. That's my 2 cents.Fedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16126641427497030469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5712681194824092608.post-21156973739910946742010-10-18T20:24:55.825-04:002010-10-18T20:24:55.825-04:00And therein lies my deeper question. How in the w...And therein lies my deeper question. How in the world did they end up on a coffee date if no one did any flirting? Did the guy ask her out without any indication that she would accept? Did she indicate without flirting that she'd be open to being asked how? If so, how did she do that?Elizabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03626608682075620770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5712681194824092608.post-33243591028937088632010-10-18T20:26:07.501-04:002010-10-18T20:26:07.501-04:00Believe it or not I have been accused of being a f...Believe it or not I have been accused of being a flirt in the last few years! I didn't mean to be flirting, I was just being friendly. Other people, upon hearing me being accused of being a flirt, came to my defense and said I had just learned to loosen up and relax. They said it was "refreshing" to see me enjoying life. I think friendliness is often mistaken for flirting because many don't know how to be friendly anymore.Carolinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5712681194824092608.post-11362508305307660262010-10-18T20:30:26.918-04:002010-10-18T20:30:26.918-04:00(and because all good blogs need disclaimers, I ne...(and because all good blogs need disclaimers, I never intend to use my coffee serving time to pick-up boys)Elizabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03626608682075620770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5712681194824092608.post-80414569996010582922010-10-18T20:50:06.356-04:002010-10-18T20:50:06.356-04:00Love your blog, Elizabeth! As a former homeschoole...Love your blog, Elizabeth! As a former homeschooler myself, I can attest to our need to relax a bit when it comes to being friendly with guys. I was so uptight and paranoid about it for years- lol. :) I think being friendly is a good thing, and it's not false advertising if you are single/available and you're friendly with a single guy at the coffee table! :) Oh- and I totally agree about the ring in the nose or eyebrow- obvious placement of a ring would help during the single years!!!annahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05464104160360674618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5712681194824092608.post-24089233778073452682010-10-19T11:35:01.560-04:002010-10-19T11:35:01.560-04:00I agree with you and Anna. That's a tough spo...I agree with you and Anna. That's a tough spot, you do great at hospitality! The tough part is letting go of the thought.. "did they think I was flirting?" Just be yourself. You know your heart and your intent. <br>I also feel that there is no harm in "throwing him a bone" as a good friend of mine called it. Step out a bit and invite him to something that you are involved in. Make a point to say hello and introduce him to others you know. I admitedly flirted A LOT with Erik. However, I don't think it was over the top or inappropriate, I was simply expressing my interest. However, growing up in a conservative church and family, this was a tough place for me to get to. Anyway, I'm pro for flirting! ;)Nikkihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08501618656111408649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5712681194824092608.post-75356503072919154392010-10-19T15:24:58.913-04:002010-10-19T15:24:58.913-04:00Maybe there are more than one ways to flirt. I thi...Maybe there are more than one ways to flirt. I think for a girl, being as feminine as she could be is the safest one. If she gives a guy 5 min of undivided attention, it'll let him know it's time for a move, ask her on a coffee date or something. When I met my wife, she gave me about 15 min of undivided attention and it drove me nuts, I asked for her email and the rest is history.Fedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16126641427497030469noreply@blogger.com